"I Want To Catch My Wife Cheating"

My mate Greg, has been feeling very suspicious of his wife
of four years cheating on him.

Everytime there seems to be some small change in her
behavior or explaination of why she came late etc, Greg gets
more and more suspicious.

We had a drink the other day and I asked him what he means
to do about it. His first and last response was simply that
he wants to catch his wife cheating. In other words he
actually wants to catch her red handed.

Now heck, each to his own. However, I do feel compelled to
share what I've learnt from helping hundreds of others who
have suffered the humiliation of an affair.

It's bad to enough to have to deal with all the powerful
emotions of shock at finding out, anger, hurt and betrayal.
But if you actually catch your partner "in the act"....that
is a visual imagery that could, and probably would scar you
for life.

So while your anger may lead you to want to catch them in
the act, so you can alomost have a "legitamcy" to your
furious anger, the aftermath of having to live with that
picture will end up being too overwhelming.

From all the people I've seen, those that choose to hire
private investigators to take pictures of their spouse in
the act...and actually end up seeing them, end up harbouring
a hurt for much longer than those who deal with the affair
with evidence and all, but avoid the actual "walking into
the room".

The over-riding message I'm trying to share is, while your
emotions are about to erupt like a enraged volcano, temper
your actions with some thought, and don't rush into anything
radical.

Have you experienced catching your spouse or partner in the
act? If so, then please leave a comment.