Trusting A Serial Adulterer

Does your spouse have a history of having affairs? Or maybe
you've been cheated on before, either with your current
partner or previous ones before...

...the truth is that building that trust is hard work - for
both of you.

The common behavior I see is that, those who have been
cheated on, and have been hurt before, take longer to trust
their partner. But that is natural and quite understandable.

The trouble however stems from the fact that if you've been
hurt before, you might tend towards unknowingly or sub
consciously forcing your other half to actively behave in a
way that shows he or she is faithful.

In other words you'll make him or her prove at every step
that they can be trusted. And because this need of yours
stems from a sense of paranoia, it is unhealthy, and more
often than not leads to arguments and complications in your
relationship that would not have happened otherwise.

As hard as it may be at times, remember that you cannot
illicit reactions and behaviors in others. The only real
control you have is over your own reactions to situations or
your partners bahavior.

If you are suspicious of your husband or wife, try not to
let your emotions get the better of you and start ranting at
them.

I can tell you from extensive experience, that remaining
calm is one of the most important steps needed to find out
the truth.