Is Your Spouse A Cyber Cheater?

Say you found out your spouse is engaging in a cyber
relationship - should you feel you are being cheated on?

Well actually it depends. If your partner is just engaging
in cybersex, it usually is just sexual desires and fantasies
they are living through the ever expanding highways of the
virtual world.

While that may still concern you, it is not really something
concrete enough to feel like you're on the recieving end of
an affair.

On the other hand if your spouse is getting emotionally
attached with the person he or she is chatting with...then
it certainly can be called an affair.

But then it brings about the never ending debate of what
needs to happen for something to be called an affair. The
fact is most of us relate to infidelity only by the physical
acts being engaged in.

However, most affairs do not materialize out of lust for
another, but because of the unfullfilled emotional needs we
all have.

So with that in mind, it is really upto you to first define
clearly in your own mind what you consider to be cheating.

One of the questions asked is how can someone get so
emotionally involved with another without being able to see
or hear them? While the complexity of the deeper human
psychology is beyond the scope of this article, I can throw
some light on this matter with a simple insight.

Two of the biggest reasons are that the usual social hurdles
of slowly getting to know one another that happens in the
physical world, are virtually eradicated. You can jump
straight in to your inner thoughts and desires, while you
hide behind a sense of anonymity.

And secondly, because there is a sense of adventure and
mystery in this very new way of connecting with others.

While some may laugh off the whole notion that a cyber
relationship can be classed as an affair, the hundreds of
people who have fallen in love would disagree.

Making a real emotional connection is not just something
that happens in movies, but in real life too.